There’re plenty of toxic individuals who’ll try to leverage their feelings in order to keep manipulating an ex.
It’s to not be comfortable getting the full details of what your ex is getting up to; being uncomfortable with knowing about their sex life doesn’t make you less of a friend, nor does it mean you’re not over them.
That being said, there’s not being comfortable with your ex’s new relationships and using your “discomfort” to control their behavior.
This goes both ways, by the way; just because you’re totally fine with knowing everything (and everyone) your ex gets up to doesn’t mean that they’re going to feel the same way about you.
Good fences make for good neighbors and good boundaries make for good friends; establishing early on what you both are and aren’t comfortable with is part of how you make a friendship with your ex work.
You need to have time apart, without being in contact with each other, in order to move into this new phase of your life.
One of the things that people tend to forget – especially in a long-term relationship – is that you develop new habits and routines that center around having your ex in your life.Let’s be honest: how much do you want to know about your ex’s love-life?This isn’t a rhetorical question; it’s a legitimate issues that you’re going to have to address sooner rather than later.Regardless of whether you lived together or lived apart, you will have into certain patterns that are dependent on working in tandem with another person. It’s easier and healthier to start a friendship when you’ve had the time and and distance to get some perspective on your old relationship.It takes time to relearn how to be on your own again, and the longer you were with them, the longer it’s going to take. Plus, getting over your ex helps avoid the annoying “reconnecting because you want to bang, not be friends” two-step.Others are fine with acknowledging that their former squeeze is seeing other people but would really rather just assume that their genitalia withered and fell off and they’re now as sexless as a Barbie doll.