Samvedna Thakur (name changed on request), 27, who works in an advertising agency in Delhi claims, "I have been dating a married man for the last two years. I've tried to break up with him several times but have failed in doing so.I am aware of the consequences if his wife finds out about our relationship.
I've been trying to forget him since then and call off the relationship, but I am not being able to do so."Dr.Arvinder Singh, a psychotherapist and consultant says, "There is usually a lot of guilt associated with such relationships.I also know that I am his second priority, but I am so emotionally attached to him that I'm not even being able to find an eligible man for myself and get married."Agreeing with Samvedna, Rashi (name changed on request), who is a marketing professional in Delhi adds, "I am dating a man who I know through work. Recently, he confessed to me that he's married and is not happy with his present relationship.He said he doesn't want to cheat on me, but can't divorce his wife either.If they do, you would have to deal with the guilt of inflicting emotional pain on his spouse and kids, besides hurting yourself.
It's important to consider that there are many people involved in your relationship, than just the two of you.Owing to their experience, married men understand the emotional needs and desires of women better than their single counterparts.However, men usually get attracted to other women as a result of a deficiency or a lack of satisfaction (emotional/sexual) in their present relationship.I met this man though a common friend and realised that he was the one for me.Being a wife and a mother, it isn't correct on my part to be dating a married man and giving up on my marriage, but I think our ultimate goal in life is to be happy, isn't it?Assess whether the man you are dating is pursuing the relationship because he loves you or he just because he wants to take advantage of you.