This helps him to realize that your time is valuable and that he'll have to go out of his way to see you. "Don't move dates around too much—that can get frustrating for a guy who also has a busy schedule like you," Trespicio says.It's easy to let parts of yourself go when you meet someone you think is the man of your dreams. "Trying to be someone you're not is so transparent to a guy," Kelman says.
"The best type of date allows you to stop texting, put the phone down, and really foster a deep connection," Kelman says.
Restaurants can be nice, but try something a little outside your comfort zone from time to time.
"You want to be the fast-moving car that he wants to jump into, not the one sitting in the parking lot, waiting around," Trespicio says.
Keep up your long runs on the weekends even if he wants to hang out, and don't expect (or nag) him to skip his weekly basketball games in favor of seeing you.
Talk about blurred lines."Every person and relationship is different, and there's no magic phrase or action that can 'get' someone to commit," says Terri Trespicio, a lifestyle and relationship expert based in New York City. One thing to look out for: If he's acting extremely jealous or policing your every move, you need to really reevaluate things.
However you can use these tips to subtly up the chances that he'll want to turn casual dating into something more. And never tell yourself, "He's a nice guy and has done nothing wrong, so I guess I should be with him." "That's convincing yourself of something that's probably not right," Trespicio says.No need to sign up at the homeless shelter only to impress him.Little things in your everyday life, from buying coffee for the woman in line behind you to walking your neighbor's dog, count too.Above all, keep the tone light and maintain open lines of communication.If you feel confident at this point that you want things to be serious, go ahead and tell him, Trespicio says."If you're always waiting around, he won't feel the need to try that hard."Build some intrigue into your schedule that keeps him wanting more.