In other words, the instant connections were more powerful than many long-term, even lifelong relationships.
Random conversation with someone you’re interested in can be a bad idea. Via Snoop: What Your Stuff Says About You: Arthur Aron, a psychologist at the State University of New York at Stony Brook, is interested in how people form romantic relationships, and he’s come up with an ingenious way of taking men and women who have never met before and making them feel close to one another.
Given that he has just an hour or so to create the intimacy levels that typically take weeks, months, or years to form, he accelerated the getting-to-know-you process through a set of thirty-six questions crafted to take the participants rapidly from level one in Mc Adams’s system to level two. The intensity of the dialogue partners’ bond at the end of the forty-five-minute vulnerability interaction was rated as closer than the closest relationship in the lives of 30 percent of similar students.
The offending image features a woman laughing, her head turned from the camera, as a besuited man glances in her direction.
Innocent—until you see the caption: “Spike your best friend’s eggnog when they’re not looking.” Natalie Bee tweeted: “Bloomingdale’s encourages you to date rape your friend for the holidays.” Another person said: “Here’s Bloomingdale’s advertising festive date rape and non-consensual drug abuse to sell fashion.
What Bloomingdale’s thought was a tongue-in-cheek caption turned out to be a serious case of foot-in-mouth disease for the department store chain this week as an undeniably distasteful page from its holiday catalog made the rounds on social media.
The retailer issued an apology late on Tuesday after outraged consumers took to Twitter to criticize an ad they said encouraged date rape.
They tested this notion by using some of the same techniques…
and found overwhelming evidence to support their hypothesis. Emotional, personal information exchange promotes powerful feelings of connection.
Check if that person has their ducks in a row, is organized and easy to get along with. Via Mating Intelligence Unleashed: The Role of the Mind in Sex, Dating, and Love: Nettle and Clegg reported that in a sample of 545 people, men (but not women) with low levels of agreeableness and conscientiousness tended to have a higher number of sexual partners.
It has also been found cross-culturally, across 10 world regions, that low levels of agreeableness and conscientiousness are related to higher levels of sexual promiscuity and relationship infidelity, so there may be reproductive benefits to those on the low end of these traits.
Jean Kilbourne, the filmmaker behind the documentary series “Killing Us Softly: America’s Image of Women,” told The Washington Post, “I doubt the person who created this was consciously thinking about sexual assault.