He will make you feel like you are his entire world -- because he wants your world to revolve around him.
Of course, just being romantic is not necessarily a sign of abuse. He will say that it's love at first sight, that you are made for each other, and that he can't imagine his life without you.
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He will say he loves you so much, he can't stand the thought of anyone else being near you. Soon, you'll be asking his approval for every decision. He will be the sweet, loving man who everyone else sees, and who you fell in love with.
Your control over your own life will slip away, as his power and control grows. But, sometimes, he will become the man who puts you down, makes you feel guilty, and isolates you.
But, an abuser will often use these gifts and romance to distract you from other concerning behaviors, such as control and jealousy. He will sweep you off your feet, and tell you he has never loved anyone this much. He will glare at other men for looking at you and question you about your male friends.
He will insist on being exclusive right away, and will likely want to move in together, or even get married, very quickly. You may feel like the relationship is moving too quickly -- trust your instincts. You may think this jealousy is cute, or even loving -- at first. He may get upset if you don't call him back right away or if you come home late. He will start to question who you saw, where you went, and what you were doing.
He will make you believe that if you just did something differently, loved him more, or treated him better, he would be that sweet, loving man all the time.
You will stay because of your hope for the man you love, but will spend most of your time being controlled by the man who hurts you. If he gets in trouble at work, it's someone else's fault. And if he is upset, he will blame you for his feelings and actions.
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But soon, he'll make you feel guilty for spending time with friends or family. He will mask his control as concern for your well-being.