Experience: Tinder is the cyber-equivalent of standing on a street corner, pointing at passers by, and asking “What about that one? Apparently Tinder thinks gay women are just going through a phase, maybe working through some daddy issues, and all we need to do is look at enough pictures of men and we’ll gave an go back to our God-given place on the D.Out of morbid curiosity, I created a Tinder account linked to one of my straight guy friends facebook, and surprise surprise: not a single picture of a man popped up. I sifted for so ages in hopes that maybe Tinder really does just treat all people as if their sexual preference is equally irrelevant; it doesn’t. Why not just name the app “Gram Gram” and call it a day?There’s no debating reality: lesbians are working with a far smaller potential dating pool than straight women, and (for reasons unknown to me) there are far fewer lesbian geared events than events geared at gay males.
He says he wants to be with me forever and that he loves me- I mean, could see us being like that but does he really mean it or is he just saying what he thinks I want to hear?He’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me, but sometimes he won’t call or text the whole day.My boyfriend and I have been going out for about three months now.We’ve already had sex and I think we took it way too fast.Since Tinder sees me ending up with a man, even though the thought of ending up with a man makes me internally scream, I spent 99% of the time pressing “x.” If you want to see more about someone, you can look at their very limited profile to see five pictures, a brief summary of how chill they are, and what “likes” you share. Unfortunately, Tinder operates under the oppressive, hetero-normative assumption that that person will be of the opposite sex.
I can’t imagine a less effective way of searching for my next girlfriend/victim. Tinder matched me with an overwhelming majority of almost 100% male matches, even though I set my preference to “women.” When Tinder did match me with a woman, there was no indication whatsoever whether that woman was gay or just also enjoyed .
ability to sort potentials based on match %, last online, newest, etc so you’re not stuck looking at the same assortmente.
tool to set “broadcast” so women in your area can see you want to hang out right awayf.
An app only useful to straight people masquerading as a LGBTQ friendly app offends me. I pity Brenda, I want Brenda take her glasses off and reveal that bangin’ body, but I don’t want to fuck with Brenda. Ok Cupid can feel a little high school what with the “who visited whose profile” but Brenda users are friendly and didn’t hesitate at all to hit me up. Ok Cupid not only has far more lezzers, it has features for days, addictive quizes, in- depth profiles, and an incredibly detailed search criteria.
Tinder might be stylish and based on an essentially good idea (matching via friends of FB friends/similar interests), but this is 2013 and it is not ok to treat gay women like second class users in any context or medium. I see so much potential here, but the site needs a makeover and more filters/amenities to really be a competitor. Furthermore, by allowing LGBTQ women to remain invisible to straight users, Ok Cupid allows you to date online without male harassment.
It makes me feel unloved but I don’t know how to let him know that without him getting mad.