This usually occurs at the point where the woman could no longer keep the act up.Maybe she’s trying to appear cool and go-with-the-flow, but in her mind she’s already thinking of ways to turn a relationship that’s really nothing at this point into something.Either you notice that he starts to pull away and seems less engaged (commonly known as “the fade away”), or he just vanishes (a phenomenon known as “ghosting”). When a girl loses interest in a guy after a few dates, she can usually pinpoint the reason.
You may not even realize you’re doing it; it’s not something you express outright.But it’s there and it comes across, even in the slightest ways.From that point forward, it’s not easygoing and natural, it’s her measuring if she is getting closer or further from her goal. Everyone recognizes when someone has an agenda, it’s just something our intuition picks up on and it immediately puts us off.Think about how you feel when someone approaches you and tries to sell something.Your first instinct is typically to get far away from them.
It doesn’t matter how nice and friendly they are, you can’t trust them because you know they want something out of you. It’s the shift from things being easy and fun to agenda-driven.Most guys can intuitively sense when a woman is reacting to them as an object rather than a person, when she is using him as a means to fill a void within herself.Guys typically don’t operate this way in relationships and he can’t fully understand what happened to turn this seemingly happy, cool girl into an unpleasant, emotionally-reactive, reassurance-seeking mess.All anyone really wants is to feel OK, and most of us don’t.When a woman worries and needs constant reassurance, it comes from a feeling of, “I am not OK” and the feeling beneath that is fear.Whereas he was previously texting her throughout the day and feeling a strong desire to see her…he now has no desire to contact her whatsoever.