“The larger a pool of potential dates you have, the more the paradox of choice causes people to freeze up,” says Ori Neidich, one of Davis’ Presen Tense mentors.“Erin has tapped into a need, you still have to meet people in person no matter what because that kind of chemistry can never be imitated by technology.” Old-school matchmaking is making inroads onto the scene for the crowd of those sick of swiping their phones to no end.
And her next one will feature only male homosexual couples.
Even with modern traditions, the core of the evening is Judaism.
Aside from Davis’ Shabbat model, there are others trying to reinvent the process.
Train Spottings uses matchmakers, known as ‘conductors,’ who scope the New York City Subway scene for singles to match with clients.
Davis’ inspiration comes from her own grandmother, Rose Goldberg, who survived the holocaust in hiding after being sent to the ghettos of Wladimir Wolynsk in Poland.
“I used to think she was just this old-school sweet Polish lady,” Davis says.
And San-Francisco-based Dating Ring, available in multiple cities, assigns users with personal matchmakers, only syncing up matches with permission from both users.
There’s also premiered in December thinks that Davis is on to something as “religion is the number one deal breaker” in relationships.
Apps have taken dating and turned it into a giant game of hot-or-not, where choices are endless and real relationships are few and far between.
Sure, JDate is popular and apps like Tinder and Hinge are growing, but that has consequences.
The crowd is hushed as Erin Davis a 30-year-old, waif-like blond, our host for the night, announces it’s time for ice breakers, where we’ll read funny and ironic facts about each other and guess who it could be.